DISCUSSION
All participants who experienced possession reveal the same pattern in having relationship with their parents. The same patterns related to parenting and relationship with their parents during childhood. During their childhood, they used to feel afraid stronger during their childhood than other children. Participants 1 used to feel afraid when she saw some dolls around her bed, the dolls looked alive. Participant 3 confessed that she is always fear. While the participant 2, even though she does not say straightly, she confesses that, her father is easy to be anxiety and her family has an ability to see supernatural things. The character as a anxious appears because they used to see their parents fight during their childhood. The behavior of parenting that followed by feeling afraid or being haunted by someone will support disorganized attachment, even though the real abuse does not occur. Disorganized attachment seen as representative from dysfunction of the attachment rational system that direct to dissociative symptom (Howell, 2005).
The participants experienced the different ways of parenting done by their parents. Participant 1 sees a father figure that as a petulant and he likes to give punishment. While a mother is understanding and she always gave her time to play together with her children. Participant 2 feels that she has psychological relationship with her mother and she used to share her story to her mother even though mother gave physical punishment when she was a child. Participant 3 feels that there was a distance between her and her parents because of their own work. Her father used to call her when she was away from her father, because he felt anxiety, while her mother was calm down. All parents of the participants often quarrel during their childhood. Even the father of participant 3 had asked her to choose with whom she will live if her parents would be divorce. The relationship with mother that influenced by conflict with father, especially related to dissociation and other symptom related to stress . The individual of father likes masculinity, intellectual, even their warmth is less important than a characteristic of their stable relationship with their children. Children who have safe relationship will have good interrelationship and sensitive towards their parents; they also will have more ability to adapt psychologically than those who have a problem with their father and mother. .
Another interesting finding in the research is that their grandparents nurture all participants. It is because their parents are busy with their work, so the role of their grandmother/grandfather is important. Grandmother manages their daily needs in the afternoon, and then they can meet their parents in the evening. In this research, the role of grandmother is not clear enough. Participant 1, she closed to her grandparents, while participants 2 and 3 have a fair relationship with their grandmother. Children spontaneously imitate body language, posture, the way to speak, and behavior people surround them, especially adult. Many people who have different behavior and pay role on their parenting influence their character such as unsolved anxiety and uncertainty. It happens because the participants are not close enough to the person who nurtures them. It has also affected them becoming a disorganized attachment, personality that causes dissociation symptom , and possession disorder is one of the results.
The role of the father of the participants described as a negative figure. Participant 1, father is a petulant, especially towards the participant 1. It makes her afraid of her father. Participant 2 considers her father as a pessimist and he often makes authoritative regulation that make he can not fulfilled her daughter’s needs. Participant 2 thinks that her father educates her like the military. This is the reason why participant 2 often has conflicts with her father. Participant 3, since she was a child, she is not close to her father whose problem hearing impairment, her father only pays attention to material needs. Participant considers her father, as a weak-kneed father so she feels pity to her father because of her mother’s treatment to her father. The negative relationship with father makes participants face to difficulty to adapt to a new situation so that they have a risk to experience possession disorder. Children whose good relationships with their father, they have little possibility to face to depression, disruptive attitude, lying or showing their pro-social attitude. The same research finds that a son who lives and nurtured by her father has a little problem at school and for a daughter, he will have a high self-confidence. Children who live with her father have a good physical health and emotional condition, having good academic score, staying away from drug and violence, and become good children .
The relationship of participants towards their mother seems so ambivalent. Participant 1 sees her mother as a figure who is friendly, always providing her time to her daughter. In contrast, she is doubtful whether her mother loves her indeed or not, yet her mother also pays attention to her little sister. Participant 2 feels that she has a psychological relationship with her mother, nevertheless she still remember the way her mother gives her physical punishment or abuse towards herself. Participants 3, she hates her mother because her mother is busy with her work and since she knows her mother has an affair with another man beside her father. In other side, she realizes that her mother earns her family for living. Those three participants grow up in unlucky ways for their mental development. Participant 1, she lacks of affection since her little sister born. Her father nurtured her little sister directly and always take the side of her little sister,it is different from her because her grandparents nurtured her. A participant 2 is similar to participant 1. She lacks of affection due to the existence of her two little sisters. The effect is she feels so happy by seeing her little sisters crying. Participant 3, she is the single child in her family, she is not close to her parents, and then she gets along with the naughty friends that give her negative impact that makes her parents decide to send her to Islamic boarding school. Dissociation symptom towards a woman related to relationship followed by conflict between a mother and daughter
Their uncontrolled emotion commonly causes a situation that supports the participant’s experience possession. Participant I experienced the possession if she felt annoyed, especially when she hurt by her father and her friends. Participant 3, she experienced possession when she is over thinking about her family problem and when she fought with her boyfriend.
Possession process is consistent with the previous research (Siswanto, 2015). In the early possession process, participants feel the physical change such as dizziness, headache, or many other physical sensations. There is a perception change e.g. seeing supernatural creature, soul comes out of the body. In this stage participant is still conscious.
The next chapter is the possession, the stage where the participants do not realize what they have done. They can only hear from their friend or peoples surround about the happen of their possession. The attitude happens during the possession are falling fainted, then when they wake up their personality has changed such as speaking another language they never use, the different content of their speaking that does not represent their selves, running and screaming.
Pasca possession in this research has similarity with the previous research. The participants feel tired/ weak that make them want to take a rest much. Their body becomes more sensitive, so when they stay at the new environment, they are able to feel the existence of supernatural creature. Figure 1 draws all participants.