DISCUSSION
All participants who experienced possession reveal the same pattern in
having relationship with their parents. The same patterns related to
parenting and relationship with their parents during childhood. During
their childhood, they used to feel afraid stronger during their
childhood than other children. Participants 1 used to feel afraid when
she saw some dolls around her bed, the dolls looked alive. Participant 3
confessed that she is always fear. While the participant 2, even though
she does not say straightly, she confesses that, her father is easy to
be anxiety and her family has an ability to see supernatural things. The
character as a anxious appears because they used to see their parents
fight during their childhood. The behavior of parenting that followed by
feeling afraid or being haunted by someone will support disorganized
attachment, even though the real abuse does not occur. Disorganized
attachment seen as representative from dysfunction of the attachment
rational system that direct to dissociative symptom (Howell, 2005).
The participants experienced the different ways of parenting done by
their parents. Participant 1 sees a father figure that as a petulant and
he likes to give punishment. While a mother is understanding and she
always gave her time to play together with her children. Participant 2
feels that she has psychological relationship with her mother and she
used to share her story to her mother even though mother gave physical
punishment when she was a child. Participant 3 feels that there was a
distance between her and her parents because of their own work. Her
father used to call her when she was away from her father, because he
felt anxiety, while her mother was calm down. All parents of the
participants often quarrel during their childhood. Even the father of
participant 3 had asked her to choose with whom she will live if her
parents would be divorce. The relationship with mother that influenced
by conflict with father, especially related to dissociation and other
symptom related to stress . The individual of father likes masculinity,
intellectual, even their warmth is less important than a characteristic
of their stable relationship with their children. Children who have safe
relationship will have good interrelationship and sensitive towards
their parents; they also will have more ability to adapt psychologically
than those who have a problem with their father and mother. .
Another interesting finding in the research is that their grandparents
nurture all participants. It is because their parents are busy with
their work, so the role of their grandmother/grandfather is important.
Grandmother manages their daily needs in the afternoon, and then they
can meet their parents in the evening. In this research, the role of
grandmother is not clear enough. Participant 1, she closed to her
grandparents, while participants 2 and 3 have a fair relationship with
their grandmother. Children spontaneously imitate body language,
posture, the way to speak, and behavior people surround them, especially
adult. Many people who have different behavior and pay role on their
parenting influence their character such as unsolved anxiety and
uncertainty. It happens because the participants are not close enough to
the person who nurtures them. It has also affected them becoming a
disorganized attachment, personality that causes dissociation symptom ,
and possession disorder is one of the results.
The role of the father of the participants described as a negative
figure. Participant 1, father is a petulant, especially towards the
participant 1. It makes her afraid of her father. Participant 2
considers her father as a pessimist and he often makes authoritative
regulation that make he can not fulfilled her daughter’s needs.
Participant 2 thinks that her father educates her like the military.
This is the reason why participant 2 often has conflicts with her
father. Participant 3, since she was a child, she is not close to her
father whose problem hearing impairment, her father only pays attention
to material needs. Participant considers her father, as a weak-kneed
father so she feels pity to her father because of her mother’s treatment
to her father. The negative relationship with father makes participants
face to difficulty to adapt to a new situation so that they have a risk
to experience possession disorder. Children whose good relationships
with their father, they have little possibility to face to depression,
disruptive attitude, lying or showing their pro-social attitude. The
same research finds that a son who lives and nurtured by her father has
a little problem at school and for a daughter, he will have a high
self-confidence. Children who live with her father have a good physical
health and emotional condition, having good academic score, staying away
from drug and violence, and become good children .
The relationship of participants towards their mother seems so
ambivalent. Participant 1 sees her mother as a figure who is friendly,
always providing her time to her daughter. In contrast, she is doubtful
whether her mother loves her indeed or not, yet her mother also pays
attention to her little sister. Participant 2 feels that she has a
psychological relationship with her mother, nevertheless she still
remember the way her mother gives her physical punishment or abuse
towards herself. Participants 3, she hates her mother because her mother
is busy with her work and since she knows her mother has an affair with
another man beside her father. In other side, she realizes that her
mother earns her family for living. Those three participants grow up in
unlucky ways for their mental development. Participant 1, she lacks of
affection since her little sister born. Her father nurtured her little
sister directly and always take the side of her little sister,it is
different from her because her grandparents nurtured her. A participant
2 is similar to participant 1. She lacks of affection due to the
existence of her two little sisters. The effect is she feels so happy by
seeing her little sisters crying. Participant 3, she is the single child
in her family, she is not close to her parents, and then she gets along
with the naughty friends that give her negative impact that makes her
parents decide to send her to Islamic boarding school. Dissociation
symptom towards a woman related to relationship followed by conflict
between a mother and daughter
Their uncontrolled emotion commonly causes a situation that supports the
participant’s experience possession. Participant I experienced the
possession if she felt annoyed, especially when she hurt by her father
and her friends. Participant 3, she experienced possession when she is
over thinking about her family problem and when she fought with her
boyfriend.
Possession process is consistent with the previous research (Siswanto,
2015). In the early possession process, participants feel the physical
change such as dizziness, headache, or many other physical sensations.
There is a perception change e.g. seeing supernatural creature, soul
comes out of the body. In this stage participant is still conscious.
The next chapter is the possession, the stage where the participants do
not realize what they have done. They can only hear from their friend or
peoples surround about the happen of their possession. The attitude
happens during the possession are falling fainted, then when they wake
up their personality has changed such as speaking another language they
never use, the different content of their speaking that does not
represent their selves, running and screaming.
Pasca possession in this research has similarity with the previous
research. The participants feel tired/ weak that make them want to take
a rest much. Their body becomes more sensitive, so when they stay at the
new environment, they are able to feel the existence of supernatural
creature. Figure 1 draws all participants.