Participant 2 (De)
De is 27 years old, female, a postgraduate student. De is Hindu, from Bali. De has 2 little brother and she is the oldest one. When De was Childhood, she spent her life with her parents, a grandmother, and a cousin who was one year older than she was. They lived in Luwuk Sulawesi. At that time, herfathers used to work at evening shift while her mother worked in a hospital, so her grandmother was a person who took care of her. When she was in kindergarten, she and her family moved to Palu. Her grandmother took and picked her up from school. Her grandmother died when she was in the first year of Senior High School. She used to play doll with her cousin. When she was in the elementary school, she used to wash her clothes by herself. After washing her clothes, she used to play with her friends. De felt that the happiest moment she ever gets started from the third grade of elementary school to the 2nd year of Junior High School.
Her parents spoiled De when she was a child. Her mother paid her attention a lot, her mother used to fulfill what De wanted. When De did not go to school yet, she closed to her father. Her father was also the same with her mother, he fulfilled all De wanted. De felt that she had a psychological relationship with her father. However, between her father and mother they had a different way in parenting. Her father tended to give limitation to her, while her mother tended to let her do what she wanted. De remembers that experienced physical violence twice. The first time was when she was in the 2nd year of elementary school, when she had just moved to Palu. Her mother cramped her mouth with full of chili because she said a dirty word, but De did not know the meaning actually. Her mother actually had reminded her not to say that word. The second violence, her father hit her when she was in the 1st year of Senior High School, the result is her foot was being reddish and she was absent from class the next day.
Beside the violence, her father and mother used to reveal their fight in front of De, even though they only argued with each other. Her father was fussier than her mother was. They blamed on each other. They used to be a mediator between them, De acted as a communication device between them along until they get together as normal. They often argued each other because of financial matter.