Participant 2 (De)
De is 27 years old, female, a postgraduate student. De is Hindu, from
Bali. De has 2 little brother and she is the oldest one. When De was
Childhood, she spent her life with her parents, a grandmother, and a
cousin who was one year older than she was. They lived in Luwuk
Sulawesi. At that time, herfathers used to work at evening shift while
her mother worked in a hospital, so her grandmother was a person who
took care of her. When she was in kindergarten, she and her family moved
to Palu. Her grandmother took and picked her up from school. Her
grandmother died when she was in the first year of Senior High School.
She used to play doll with her cousin. When she was in the elementary
school, she used to wash her clothes by herself. After washing her
clothes, she used to play with her friends. De felt that the happiest
moment she ever gets started from the third grade of elementary school
to the 2nd year of Junior High School.
Her parents spoiled De when she was a child. Her mother paid her
attention a lot, her mother used to fulfill what De wanted. When De did
not go to school yet, she closed to her father. Her father was also the
same with her mother, he fulfilled all De wanted. De felt that she had a
psychological relationship with her father. However, between her father
and mother they had a different way in parenting. Her father tended to
give limitation to her, while her mother tended to let her do what she
wanted. De remembers that experienced physical violence twice. The first
time was when she was in the 2nd year of elementary
school, when she had just moved to Palu. Her mother cramped her mouth
with full of chili because she said a dirty word, but De did not know
the meaning actually. Her mother actually had reminded her not to say
that word. The second violence, her father hit her when she was in the
1st year of Senior High School, the result is her foot
was being reddish and she was absent from class the next day.
Beside the violence, her father and mother used to reveal their fight in
front of De, even though they only argued with each other. Her father
was fussier than her mother was. They blamed on each other. They used to
be a mediator between them, De acted as a communication device between
them along until they get together as normal. They often argued each
other because of financial matter.